Someone told me that I get angry at the people in my life for not meeting my (high) standards without even giving them a chance to meet them. Because I don’t tell them what my standards are.
I never considered my standards to be high, all I want is a friendship based on trust and an equal amount of energy from both sides to keep the relationship healthy. Is that too much to ask for? I don’t think so. Is it unfair to drop people if they don’t meet my standards? Maybe, that person was right about the fact that I don’t tell people what I want from them. I thought it was normal to expect from the other person in a friendship to invest as much time in it as you do. Is that so weird? I don’t know.
There are so many things I thought they were normal, which apparently are not. It is clear that I need to change my way of communicating with people. But I don’t know how.
I feel stuck. And confused.